3 ways to have a bad group discussion 🥲
AND 3 SOLUTIONS ✅✅✅
A.) Nick’s 9-minute Video Breakdown of Material
watch at link ⬇️⬇️⬇️
https://www.loom.com/share/522239a57b4a4d89b96126987f38b4e2?sid=ebf6b8a3-80f6-426a-a2d2-feeb1fd02a59
B.) Read it here 🤓⬇️
Problem #1 - It’s hard to listen when you’re thinking and soon to be presenting. 🤔
We all want to be the kind of person that knows how to listen to other people.
But it’s difficult when you have to talk soon, and you don’t want to look dumb.
Solution ✅
Build Listening into every game! 👂
-COMMON PRACTICE: “What I heard you say was.”
-GAME: Introduce SOMEONE ELSE to the group, after you’ve just learned who they are.
Problem #2 - Dealing with that one guy 🙄
We all know that person that talks way too long, that raises their hand the most, that we all actually want to hear talk the least….
Solution: Smaller sided discussion ✅
GAME:
3-4 in a group. Discuss a topic together as a smaller group and elect a representative to speak for the group.
= more people talking / being represented.
Problem #3 - The Goal has to be really clear. 🎯
If it’s really about listening hearing and holding space for perspectives, it had to be designed that way.
This Girl at Shawnee was telling me about her civics class, and that here favorite part of the class was when they’d pull a perspective out of a hat and have to argue for that perspective.
SOLUTION: PLAY EMPATHY GAMES. ✅
Game: PERSPECTIVE CHARADES.
IMAGE TWO HATS WITH TOPICS WRITTEN ON A PIECE OF PAPER IN EACH
-uncontroversial things to argue for (lighten up) 🧢
-more serious issues. 🎩
*people can pass on a subject, that’s okay, but only the idea is, to argue for whatever is pulled, to begin to understand the perspective more deeply.
⭐️BONUS⭐️: Lastly, Perhaps most radically: WALK AS A GROUP! 🚶♂️➡️🚶♀️
Consider starting the group at The Landing, and going for a short walk to an outside sitting area. Then Talking.
-This is called “attuning” the group. Example of my morning jiujitsu class:
(<——example)
-People will talk on the way. ✅
-Positive Blood Flow ✅
-Clearing hearts and minds ✅
Conversations are especially electric at the gym if we’ve just wrestled for an hour. People open up and sing like tuned instruments.
Perspective charades!!!! Oh man!! Love it.
Perspective can be lost so quickly when no one is willing to discuss and communicate…
Perspective can be gained so quickly when we are willing to discuss and communicate….
But I’ll go even one step further….
The condition of a persons heart and level of pride/humility/vulnerability can drastically affect the discussion & perspective.
So coming to the conversation with an open heart and willingness to learn and grow is important ❤️ (learned that one the hard way on a few occasions 😒)