👹 devil in me > devil in you 😡
strategies for SEEING things as they really are.
1. The goal of self reflection
is to see things as they really are.
That’s the goal of self reflection.
Not worse than they are. Or more critical. But as they are. Many traditional practice to see things this way. THE REAL. THE TRUTH. AS IT IS.
It is, what it is.
We spend a lifetime trying to actually see things this way. How many times in your life have you already looked back on a situation where you had it all figured out at the time, BUT NOW, its totally different?
Seeing things as they are is a FINE art.
2.defaulting to what you can control and change. (devil in me)
You.
You can change you.
I can change me.
We can be aware of our own short comings.
We can always take a self inventory.
Next time someone pisses you off to no end and you just want to scream.
1.) Just notice
2.) and ask, why do i have such seething in anger and resentment?
3.) have i ever shown similar behaviors as them?
We can understand peoples demons, because we understand our own.
3. EMPATHY is a problem solving strategy i’ve covered before.
4.give yourself at the same benefit of the doubt you give to others
THIS IS ALL PETERSON:
“People are more likely to give prescription medication to their pets than to take them themselves
Imagine someone that you treat well, that you love
And try to treat yourself that way
You go to detach from yourself there
You got to think, okay well
I’m a person among other people
And I deserve at least as much respect
As a person among other people
I should be trying to help myself across time
And instead of being self-contemptuous and self-destructive
I need to take care of myself
As if I’m potentially valuable
And to lay out my life that way
It’s hard for people
They don’t take care of themselves as well as they should”
It’s like, have some respect for yourself as a miraculous being
Because that is actually what you are
There is a lot of potential within you
You’re necessary more than you think to the unfolding of things
That’s the thing about being an individual
It’s the thing that western civilization has always recognized
That as an individual you have a light that you have to bring into the world
And that if you don’t bring it into the world the world is a dimmer place
And that’s a bad thing because when the world is a dim place it can get very, very, very dark”
5. wrongdoing is ignorance
Epictetus says,
would you be angry at a deaf man?
a mute man?
a weak man?
if we see things this way, maybe we can be detached enough to not stoop to the level of those who hurt people, and we can be clear headed enough to take positive action.
