Stuck?

(AKA: Existential Inertia)

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Untitled.2 - BURIAL

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1.) “EXISTENTIAL INERTIA” DEFINITION:

John Verveake’s Term that describes:

The desire to change, but the seeming inability to.

“We imagine change, but we cannot find it”

“After years of repeated failures, we sense that something about our worldview inhibits us.”

“Something about the way we act in the world inhibits our goals.”

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2.) The Experience we’re looking for to BREAK OUT OF STUCK-NESS is what Verveake calls: “SENSIBILITY TRANSCENDENCE”

Read from the passage if you like:

Summarized below:

SUMMARY:

Have you ever thought someone was a really unpleasant person…

And then you GET TO “KNOW” THEM.

And all the sudden you’re like…wait…..

They’re not RUDE.

They’re just HONEST.

That’s “Sensibility Transcendence.”

BAM, YOU SEE YOUR WORLD IN A NEW WAY

And if you pay attention, carefully, with time and patience, you can find all the ways you might be misframing things with your own unconscious bias— that trap you into a certain limited view of the world—S.T. is systemic. Once you find one, it leads to others.

This is how you begin to set yourself free.

Or more practically:

You put yourself in the right position, around the right people, to be set free.

3. Practical Steps for UNSTICKING.

1.Intentionally talk with a person wiser than you in the area you’re stuck.

I’ve been talking to this Guy named Chandler Stevens. He is often giving me practical steps to stop my own unconscious biases and tendencies from sucking me back into bad business practices.

setting up a new game to play.

With guardrails and goals.

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2.Play.

This is why i’m a play addict. I FEEL, not think—FEEL—it changing how i see the world. This is best done when you have cool people to play with.

Go try a new activity. You’ll see the world differently if you can find even a little bit of flow. Give yourself enough time to find flow. You’ll know.

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3.Pray.

It could be to the God of your understanding.

if you merely open up and remain humble, bringing that posture into life. It helps.

AA would tell you something like: Your higher power could be a #19 bus.

That’s obviously ridiculous.

THE POINT IS:

if you could have figured it out, you would have by now….

My Dad said they used to tell him in meetings: “Brother, that Chair has more control than you do!”

The point is to try to get the attention OFF OF YOURSELF.

It does not mean you have no control over anything or never will.

What it means is:

open up, decenter, drop your guard. Look for help. However big or small.

Maybe then you’ll get an insight!

That leads to the next

And the next

You can keep opening

Seek ask find.

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